I am currently reading this book titled “Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood.” I am only halfway through, but I already have some insights that I would like to share. First off, this isn’t a book review. What I would discuss here is the overall theme of the story, which is friendship. The analysis of the plot, critiques, and general thoughts would be for another article on another website.
Back to what I was saying, this book centers on the unbreakable bond of four women who were friends since childhood. As the story progresses, it reminiscences the adventures they experience while growing up. I will not further divulge the plot since I do not want to spoil anybody. Anyhow, what deeply moved me is the unconditional sisterly bond they all share. I have a few friends that I consider close in my life. They are my friends since grade school, and I am forever thankful that we met. However, what we share is nothing close to the sisterhood of the Ya-Ya’s.
Yes, we have gone through a lot during our friendship. But, we never broke our limitations as friends. Compared to the Ya-Ya’s, we always have a safe distance to respect our personal space. We did not hold any rituals to commemorate our friendship, and our adventures are vastly incomparable.
I can say that I grew envious of the friendship they have exhibited. The Ya-Ya’s are closer than family, and they lasted longer than committed relationships. Their bond is something everybody wishes.
However, even though my relationship with my friends is nothing compared to theirs. I wouldn’t trade it for a world. Why, you may ask? Because I believe that friendships are unique and cannot follow a single pattern. Some are born from mutual understanding, and some even from hatred!. But the true meaning of friendship is not defined by how many adventures you have gone through or how tightly knitted you all are. Its true purpose is whether each of you has each other’s back.
True friends wish the best for you and will never purposely lead you to bad decisions. They will also want your best interest at heart. You may experience fun with other people, yet the trust and confidence you share will never be the same.
What’s the purpose of a thrilling escapade with someone if you would be stabbing each other’s backs at the end of the day?. If you seek this, what you long for is unforgettable fantasies with a person and not the bond and reliance you have for them.
To end my insight, I would part with the words, “Wishing for an ideal friendship will only get you nowhere. Instead of looking for someone in the vast forward, turn around and see who’s got your back.”